Reading with Toddlers
First published in Beckers Blog in 2017 https://www.shopbecker.com/resource-cafe/beckers-blog/infants-and-toddlers/infant-discovery-of-object-permanence/
Reading to young children especially toddlers, requires patience as the activity needs to be child lead. One must have the ability to let toddlers crawl on and over you and come and go as they please during the reading of a story.
Does this seem counter-intuitive to what you believe story time should look like? Here is why moving during story time works. Young children do most of their learning actively moving and exploring. So when they are moving during a story, toddlers will be listening and retaining information although it might not look that way. When children are moving their oxygen level increases, which fuels their neurotransmitters, which increases their alertness.
Strategies that will help to keep the attention of a toddler during story time:
Be prepared to read the same book again and again. Just do it, toddlers are learning a love of reading and language.
Be patient, young children often turn the pages before you read the words and they often look for that one favorite page. They ask the same question over and over.
Remember to use a kind and gentle voice, and vary your pitch. Use sign language or hand motions and give the children small objects to hold.
Why is any of this important? Research has revealed that there is a “word gap” that factors into an achievement gap between the poor and the better-off in school and in life. http://www.npr.org/2013/12/29/257922222/closing-the-word-gap-between-rich-and-poor Children that are read to daily develop parts of the brain that are key for early literacy, which is a predictor of academic success later on. Reading together can be a great opportunity to bond with your child, and develop his or her social-emotional skills as well.
A few favorite titles here:
Goodnight Moon by Margaret Wise Brown
Polar Bear, Polar Bear by Bill Martin Jr and Eric Carle
Ten Little Fingers and Ten Little Toes by Mem Fox and Helen Oxenbury
Good Night Gorilla by Peggy Rathmann
Basket of Babies (for fidgeting) https://www.shopbecker.com/Basket-of-Babies-MTC13/
The Smart Step
Continuing a series of business blogs written by Victor J. Temple, business manager at Friendship Garden Nursery School, Inc.
By Victor J. Temple
As the leader of your fiefdom, there is no job that you think you can’t do; furthermore no one could do these jobs as well as you. How could they, you built this company, created the policies and procedures. That is your blood, sweat and tears on the floor, there is no possible way that anyone could add value to your custom built business, or could they.
Often the first professional manager to be hired by a growing company will be the CFO or equivalent. The founder realizes he/she needs help however the release of the company, product or process to the new professional manager is an arduous task.
A while ago I undertook the consolidation of 96 Excel worksheets into an accounting information system. The 96 worksheets was bragging material for the proud founder. His company didn’t need a double entry accounting system. There was a spreadsheet for domestic A/R, another for international A/R, one for deposits owed, deposits paid and on and on and on.
The unfortunate result of the cash and balance sheet account reconciliation was a drop in retained earnings of $500K. If you are a proud founder, doing everything yourself, ask yourself the hard question. Do I know the best practice for each process in my business? Honestly you don’t, start looking for professional managers that can help you succeed, before you have a $500K retained earnings hit.
The “Truth”
This month I will be posting a series of business blogs written by Victor J. Temple, business manager at Friendship Garden Nursery School, Inc.
By Victor J. Temple
Is your truth……the real truth?
We are the best…..we are the best childcare…No one is better….our business runs like clock-work….nothing is needed. Isn’t it easy to believe your own stories and rhetoric. In a business the stories of superiority spread like wild fire when fed from the top.
We fell into this trap in the past at our childcare. We had the best childcare, just ask the teachers. Some parents stated there is no better in the industry. Accounting boosts of fail safe processes, with no errors.
It takes a brave, insightful leader to support the bravado with fact. If you desire the truth, ask all your customers; past, current and future. Our story was we were the best in town and had the most competitive price. Then we asked our customers when returning from a sabbatical how we did while away. They told us that the teacher turnover was excessive, policies weren’t followed and pricing was inconsistent.
Try this in your company, walk into a classroom and ask the team why they are doing a specific task. If the answer is, “because we have always done it this way”, you might not have that fail safe process with no errors.
If you want to add fact to the bravado, just ask your internal and external customers for their opinion.
How inaction is an action
This month I will be posting a series of business blogs written by Victor J. Temple, business manager at Friendship Garden Nursery School, Inc.
By Victor J. Temple
Inaction is a Decision that will Create a Result:
In today’s political turmoil and possible economy downturn it is easy to find yourself re-arranging the deck chairs on your Titanic. Perhaps your wait list is off, cash is low, and parents aren’t calling! Many of us turn to what we did yesterday or worst yet, clean our desk, file and re-organize last years invoices, candidly taking no action.
Over the course of history, the dot com bubble, the housing crisis, Covid and more brought similar economic and political turmoil. We were mentored back then by a very successful entrepreneur that founded Whistler Radar, with help, we created a simple acronym for our action plan, OAF or rather OAPH, Operational Action Plan Highlights.
Create this plan with your team, all of them, get them together and ask a very simple question, what are we going to do differently tomorrow than what we did today? In each functional area of your business, ask this question, challenge yourself to craft unique and ridiculous objectives, don’t debate them, there is no wrong, just opportunities for change. Prioritize these objectives and take action, report on them weekly and continue to push change, remember no action is a decision and will create a result, one that might not be pleasant.
The companies that weathered the storm of the great depression emerged to be the leaders of today. Create the possibility of success and live into that possibility by doing something differently everyday, when the economy shifts you will be poised for grandeur.
30 years
As I watched the sun come up this morning it is another beautiful day here on Cape Cod. I reflect on the name my mom chose for me, Robin. I am the early bird, I am aptly named.
Today marks the beginning of year 30 at the Friendship Garden Nursery School, Inc.
I was once a 33-year-old with big, big dreams. I am so grateful and fortunate to have been able to live out those dreams for the past 29 years running my own business with an additional 9 years working for the original owner of the property.
We’ve seen plenty of change throughout the years. The most significant was in 2020 when we reinvented ourselves and now follow the philosophy of play based, child lead, nature inspired early childhood education. We have found our most success, of all our years, during this time.
I’ve met and worked with some incredible teachers so dedicated to the field of early childhood education. We collaborated to make FG fun place to work and a safe and fun place for children to learn. We also advocated for professional recognition and adequate compensation. Yes, we are still working on these things!
To the children I have met over the years, you are incredible human beings. I am so fortunate to still be in contact with some of you, including some of my first children that are now in their early 40’s! I am so fortunate to have some of their children!
Families, together we have shared our happiness and sorrow and you’ve shared yours with us. Thank you for finding us and allowing us to partner with you on your parenting journey. We are honored to be a part of your lives.
Looking back to look ahead I am enthusiastic and energized to begin yet another school year. A special thanks and shout out to my early team members that taught me hard work and resilience. To my first husband, he was there by my side opening the business with me I owe him my heartfelt thanks. To my current team of teachers whom have taught me; compassion, cooperation, collaboration, and trust allowing for my semi retirement, I am so appreciative of your support.
To my husband, Victor my life could not be better so grateful to have you in it!
2025-2026 here we come.
Rest Time
I often see early educators ask on different platforms how to handle non-sleepers at rest time. Most teachers seem to ask because it is very stressful time of day in a classroom. Responses often include quoting a state requirement for rest and also the range of answers from giving children “busy bags” or books to listening to audio stories to not requiring a rest time. All fine ideas that one would hope does not add to the stress that occurs for educators during “rest” time.
Some people claim rest time to be for curriculum planning and breaks. In my opinion this is what creates a hardship. The teachers have an agenda for themselves so it gets SO frustrating if they can’t accomplish what they expect. The expectation that teachers plan or break during rest is doomed to failure.
You need to know what your philosophy of rest time is. We should not see it as controlling children. There are schools that allow children to choose to rest where other children do not choose to rest. This is when you need to define your philosophy. We believe that everyone needs down time, a time to slow down, re-set and self regulate. We help our children to rest by setting the stage for rest. We cover the toys, dim the lights, and start with quiet music. We model our own rest time by quietly reading a book, writing notes, working on portfolios or messaging parents. We do not scurry about the room but rather sit quietly attending to our tasks. We use big pieces of flat cardboard to make partitions between children if needed.
We need to trust that children know their own bodies and we also need to help them to see that a resting period is healthy.
“Bad” Words
This post was written in part by Delaney Driscoll , Friendship Garden Nursery School Educator
You are not alone if you experience your child expressing themselves using bad or swear words!
Children hear the language being used around them, think about what you said when getting cut off in traffic, or dropping a bag in a hurry getting out the door. Children repeat this in and out of context. We appreciate that they are using their words to communicate how they feel, and also we’re trying to model for them more descriptive, appropriate replacement exclamations when we can.
We say silly things or use constructive language depending on the situation, children are usually not trying to be hurtful or “bad” they are being expressive. We appreciate families that help us explain why we can’t use those words since we can’t give meaning or explanation to them.
Next time you find yourself in a stressful situation, what will you say?
Re-Thinking Loose Parts
There is so much written about loose parts. I have recently enjoyed reading about loose parts in an “untraditional” way. As I am wondering about and embracing the philosophy that nearly everything can be a loose part, I find it’s really a mindset for your classroom rather than about any specific materials.
When we think of loose parts we are likely thinking of those objects we add to the environment rather than the environment itself. Tree cookies, velcro hair rollers, sticks, boxes, clips, and tires quickly come to mind as materials that children can use any way they can imagine. But what about tables, chairs, all weather and even art materials.
If we are not directing children as to how they must use these materials they will undoubtedly use them as loose parts. As always there are safety guidelines that need to be followed.
How will you see your child care surroundings differently?
Recharge and Renew
How do you practice self care? Is it enough to fill your cup and recharge you for the role of caregiver?
I find more and more people with more and more on their plates from caring for parents or raising grandchildren, to having an ill family member to working while going to school full time.
How do you plan for the R and R that all staff needs while operating a full time center? It is true we have a negative attitude when an educator needs to call out. Often for personal reasons or one has fallen ill due to the stress of life/work or let’s face it, winter illness and finally burnout. We need to regroup and see this as a valuable time for our colleagues to recharge! What about teachers who are also parents? We all need the time to recharge and renew to come back to work ready to work. Let’s try to put a positive spin on teacher’s finding time to take care of themselves.
An empty caregiver cannot “care’ at all. Take care.
Team
How do you see your team? Director, educators and assistant educators (or other labels) that differentiate members of the team or do you see people with the power to lead, choose and decide within your organization? I am working towards the latter and the shift is hard!
When you lead with equity, everyone has a voice, a say, an opinion to develop their workspace. Allow team members to excel with the skill set they have as you work to develop more leadership abilities. For me it has been really hard to step back and allow others to step forward, which by the way they do, if this is a fear of yours it may be unfounded!
I also recently became keenly aware of the difference between delegating responsibilities and authorizing decision making. Delegating was saying, here’s a task to complete, do it like this, it doesn’t have to be that way but for me it was. Authorizing on the other hand is, allowing another to make the decision or do the task, etc. the way they choose.
We all would like to be irreplaceable but the fact of the matter is we are all replaceable. How would you like to spend your time?
