Choice Words
I am taking a class this semester therefore some of my blogs will focus around being “back in school”.
For class I read, “Choice Words, How our Language Affects Children’s Learning”, by Peter Johnson. https://www.amazon.com/Choice-Words-Language-Childrens-Learning/dp/1571103899
My first reaction to the reading was that this would be an easy read, after beginning to read I then thought, “what did I get myself into?” as the reading had me reflecting and then re-reading!
I experienced a range of emotions from the reading that I will convey in this reflection.
I am stricken and angry thinking how many interactions I had with my teachers growing up that “stopped” my learning. I am evolved enough to let that go and today it deepens my resolve to learn the skills of being a teacher who not only creates a collaborative learning community but sustains it. I am very fortunate to work with management that supports this developmental model. I read the book wearing two hats. One as a teacher of young children and the second as a mentor to young adults.
I reflect that as a teacher of young children, I am quite capable of allowing and supporting mistakes and retries. Allowing children to take risks and try things out is a common occurrence in my classroom. I noticed that within the daily structure I have emphasized correction, “have to” and/or set up situations leading to an expected or anticipated result. I will be conscious of that going forward. Within the first chapter of the reading there was a reference to “telling mode” this irritates me in my personal life yet I see that at times I have behaved that way in the classroom. At this I feel frustrated. The author reminds us that “we don’t know what we don’t know” which relieves some of my frustration and encourages me to think and grow.
Working with young adults I see that I have followed many of the examples from the reading. Allowing each person accountability, responsibility and ownership for their thoughts and actions creates the productive learning community the author speaks of. I employ many examples of the prompting language he suggests. A few weeks ago I read an article about adult learners that helped to identify for me the assumption that all teachers should “know” a rule, policy or teaching strategy and how frustrating it is if they do not. http://www.childcareexchange.com/article/helping-adults-succeed/5021316 The author of Choice Words supported this as well, challenging us to know our audience and to identify them in terms you want them to be. I am in the habit of identifying the teachers as professionals when we talk, similarly to the way the writer identifies the children as readers and authors.
I am proud to think that I have evolved more to this model however I am interested to observe my own practice and the practice of those around me. Of particular interest is noting how many teachers are teaching from the IRE model (teacher Initiates, student Responds, teacher Evaluates). How often do we give infants/toddlers/children/other teachers the opportunity to explore, experiment, take risks, fail, and conclude for themselves? How often do we respect their opinion with an open mind? Are we using gender neutral questions/phrases?
I like open our weekly teacher meetings with asking for any follow up, concerns or comments. I am really happy to be able to shift to “any compliments?” I imagine it will set the tone for great conversation. I have had the conversation many times trying to figure out why it is natural to assume negative intent, yet now I see I have set that up in my opening statement every week. Time for a change! Have you ever received a phone call or had someone say to you, “Let’s meet in my office” and be given no more information and then assumed the worst or jumped to a negative conclusion. I have and I have witnessed others do the same. The line of open ended questions similar to “which part are you sure about and which part are you not sure about” will help to clarify in the future.
I am excited to practice. I am armed with an arsenal of references to powerful language!
The “talking” blog
Let’s reflect on our practice of talking to children.
Just the other day an early childhood colleague jokingly said, “you should be a commentator” as we were walking with a group of children and I was pointing out trees, birds, trucks and signs along the way. In my quest to evolve as an early educator and person, I try to listen to what people say to me at a deeper level. I recalled an article I had recently skimmed about talking to/at young children.
How much should we talk to children?
The answer is children should talk to us. Asking children too many questions can lead to a child not talking at all. Imagine being bombarded with “what are you doing?”, “what are you making”, tell me what you drew”, “could you add/change this?”, “look at this, look at that” and on and on. There would never a peaceful moment to reflect.
Children like adults need quiet to reflect and assimilate information. If we allow uninterrupted space children will come to us with what they need.
Does your classroom or life have peaceful moments where you can reflect? This week practice being quiet.
Welcome New and Returning Families!
Welcome New and Returning Families!
We are so excited for the new school year and cannot wait to get started! This year will be filled with exciting adventures, fun projects and educational activities. These will be designed to help prepare the children for life’s endeavors, understand dynamics and engage in small and large groups, and become familiar with concepts they will further develop throughout elementary schooling and beyond.
We are welcoming so many new families, and are also mixed with bittersweet emotions as we send off our graduating students to continue their academic journeys in kindergarten.
Please join us for the end of summer playground playdate and Art Show on Friday, August 28th from 4:00-5:00 PM.
FGNS Kids
Please label everything your child brings into school. Each child brings hundreds of personal items into the school throughout the year and it is not possible to keep track of what belongs to who. Things fall out of cubbies, children take things off and throw them on the floor, give them away to another child or put them in the wrong cubby. In order to avoid confusion, we respectfully ask that you label absolutely every personal item that your child brings or wears into school. This may include but is not limited to sippy cups, thermoses, water bottles, lunch boxes, containers, jackets, hats, mittens, boots, slippers, comfort items, blankets ect. Anything special, valuable or irreplaceable should not come into the school. If your child comes home with something that does not belong to them, please return it in a timely manner. We thank you for your understanding and cooperation.
Welcome New Teachers!
We want to extend a warm welcome to our new staff who will be officially beginning their journey teaching at Friendship Garden Nursery School full time for the 2015-2016 School Year. They are all thrilled to be part of our team and excited to further enrich the children’s lives with excitement and intrigue. Their objectives in the next few weeks will be to learn all about the children and their families, and continue to offer the structure, social, emotional and academic education the children need to thrive.
We appreciate your understanding and patience as everyone continues training for the last few weeks of summer. We recognize the importance of consistency in caregivers and are committed to maintaining a high standard of excellence in the quality of early education experiences offered here at FGNS. The new teachers were carefully selected, are in the process of undergoing comprehensive training and each has offered their assurance they are reliable caregivers and focused educators.
Meet Our Staff
Alexis Turner is our new Lead Teacher, stationed in the Toddler Room. Alexis has over 20 years experience teaching in preschool and toddler classrooms. She is also the mother to 3 wonderful daughters, Ashton, Emily and Ava. We are thrilled to have Alexis on our team as we know she will bring a whole new level of excitement for our amazing group of toddlers. 
Olivia Fluker will be the full time Teacher for our Pre-Kindergarten classroom. Olivia is developing a comprehensive curriculum plan to prepare the children for kindergarten and beyond. She is working hard to create a full schedule of fun and engaging activities and projects. She will be working in collaboration with Megan and myself to implement these plans effectively throughout the year.
Megan Foster will be the full time Teacher Assistant in the Pre-Kindergarten classroom. Megan is so happy to pursue her career as a preschool teacher. She will be working more closely with the young preschoolers to allow them more flexibility in academic based projects and increased support in social emotional development and potty training.
Loose Parts
Young children learn most when they are actively participating in the learning process by interacting with adults, each other and the environment. The materials that children interact with are placed in one of two categories, open ended or closed materials. Open ended materials are materials that can be used in many different ways, opposed to closed materials that have one intended use. Wind-up toys, puzzles, talking toys, worksheets and coloring pages are a few examples of closed materials. These types of materials have only one correct way to use them and they require very little higher order thinking.
Loose parts are categorized as open ended. Open ended materials encourage thinking, creativity and experimentation. Loose parts play is intended to be limitless and timeless. It is helpful to think of loose parts as something that will inspire imagination and creativity for each child based on their unique personality and temperament.
Loose parts can be natural or synthetic. They are materials that can be moved, carried, combined, redesigned, lined up and taken apart and put back together in multiple ways. Loose parts can be used alone or combined with other materials. There are NO directions with loose parts.
Let’s look at aluminum cans. They can be stacked, rolled, used as containers, hollered into, kicked, used in the play kitchen as imaginary food, become a telescope, etc. They are virtually indestructible, easily replaced and free (except for the original contents).
Here is a list of loose parts in the environment. It can be found here: ribbonshttp://extension.psu.edu/youth/betterkidcare/early-care/our-resources/tip-pages/tips/loose-parts-what-does-this-mean
Loose parts in a natural play area:
water • sand • dirt • sticks • branches • logs • driftwood • grasses • moss • leaves • flowers • pinecones • pine needles • seeds • shells • bark • feathers • boulders • rocks • pebbles • stones
Loose parts on a playground:
balls • hoops • jump ropes • tires • sand • water • dirt • straw • boulders • rocks • stones • pebbles • buckets • cups • containers • digging tools • chalk • scarves • ribbons • fabric
Loose parts in an indoor environment:
blocks • building materials • manipulatives • measuring • pouring devices (cups, spoons, buckets, funnels) • dramatic play props • play cars, animals, and people • blankets • materials • floor samples • water • sand • sensory materials • recycled materials (paper tubes, papers, ribbons, caps, lids, wood scraps, wire, foam, cardboard) • plastic gutters • small plungers • tools • art materials (buttons, spools, natural and colored popsicle sticks, beads, straws, paints, brushes)
What else can you collect?
Resolutions and Change
The year is half over, if you’re like many people, you start off every year with good intentions for keeping your New Year’s resolution. Now is the time for a mid-year check in. How are you doing? Here is a list to help you get or stay on track.
Renew Your Commitment – Review the reasons you made your resolution(s) in the first place. Are they still relevant to your life?
Be Realistic –Is your goal something you can realistically accomplish in the amount of time you set.
Set Small Goals – Break your goal down into realistic small parts, be specific about what you want to accomplish, set milestones.
Talk About your Goal – Don’t keep it a secret. Involve your friends, your family and your pet. They can be a support. Find someone who is working on the same thing and do it together. Meet at the gym, share healthy recipes or join a book club. You’ll motivate each other and a little friendly competition may be just what you need to stay on track.
Expect Setbacks – Accept the fact that you are not going to be perfect every day and don’t beat yourself up for a minor setback. Recognize your success, reward yourself appropriately and, if you do fall down, get right back to it the next day.
What, you ask does any of this have to do with young children? The answer is twofold. One, I made a commitment to enhance my teaching skills, to learn something new and to bring it into my practice. It was time to review my progress. Two, these same skills apply to working with the young child!! I follow each of these steps in my classroom with teamwork and intention towards a common goal! It is a joyous, workable, pleasurable learning environment. Isn’t that what we are all striving for?
Dramatic Play Prop Boxes
Circus Prop Box
The importance of dramatic play was outlined in another of my blog posts, this blog overviews some fun, inexpensive open ended dramatic play ideas for your early learning center or home. When children dress up or play in the Dramatic Play Area, they try on various roles which help them process and understand the world. Young children are developing social skills and the ability to play with others, while using their imagination and being creative.
Dramatic play is not just a “housekeeping” kitchen center but we’ll start there.
Housekeeping, it is familiar to most children and therefore a great starting point for dramatic play. All that is needed are items you have in your home or center already. Old phones, pots/pans, bowls, spoons, kitchen towels and some open ended materials such as blocks, river stones or fabric pieces that can be used imaginatively. Open ended materials (materials that have no specific intended use) add richness to dramatic play.
Here are A FEW other ideas for dramatic play centers/areas or prop boxes.
Restaurant/pizza parlor- discarded pizza boxes, play money, order pad, phones, aprons, cash register, stove, play pizza cutter, cardboard circles (pizzas) with felt on one side, felt toppings – green peppers, mushrooms,
Grocery Store-play food, empty food containers/boxes, paper bags, cash register, play money, sale flyers, grocery cart/basket, aprons, purses/wallets, coupons, paper and pencil for lists
Ice cream shop – ice cream scoops, paper cones, empty ice cream tubs, play money/cash register, apron and hat, order pads/pencils, wipe-off board menu, empty whipped cream spray cans
Flower Shop-Plastic flowers, water can, tools, seed packets, smock, plastic pots, cash register, money, tools, phone, garden hat, ribbon, pen and paper
More Themes:
Farm/zoo/jungle safari/pet shop/vet office
Camping/fishing
Lemonade Stand
Archeological dig
Doctor Office/Eye Doctor/Dentist/Office
Construction site
Airplane/train/boat
Use your imagination and add inexpensive hands on materials for discovery. Remember to add open ended materials to stimulate the imagination. Boxes, tubes, plastic containers, pieces of fabric, paper, writing instruments and tape can be anything the child wishes to create.
I’d love to hear your additions!
Teaching styles and temperaments
Do different teaching styles and temperaments help develop a well-rounded child?
Children will encounter many different types of personalities and temperaments in their educators. The skills they develop from each will make them stronger more resilient adults. We have all developed certain traits based on how an educator impacted us, some negative and some positive.
I have observed over the years that it is not necessary to be huggy and cuddly to be an excellent early childhood educator. What does this mean, don’t we want our young children to be surrounded by baby talking, cooing people? This is not a necessity to being a good educator. Being kind and fair is. Children must adapt to the teaching style, just like in life. There is not a one size fits all profile for the early educator. The key to success is good relationship between the family and the provider, in other words, “a good fit”.
Ask yourself, are the needs of the children being met beyond custodial care? Is there a loving trusting relationship bond between the educator and the family and the child? If there is it is a good sign that educator is a good caregiver.
I work with educators from age 18-60. We are not all the same in our approach and style. Some of us have more physical energy and flexibility, some of us see more humor in situations, some of us are cuddly, and some of us are reserved. ALL of us care deeply about your children and we meet the basic tenants of caring and committed professionals.
Friendship
Friendship
What lessons about friendship can we learn from a preschool child?
I had opportunity lately to reflect on friendships when I moved from being in close proximity to some of my friends. I’ve seen friendships develop in preschool and continue into adulthood. I have friendships of my own that started in grade school. I’ve also known people who were “my friends” and are no longer.
Everything I know about friends I learned as a preschool teacher. Young children are my window into friendships simplified.
- Friendships are based on common interests. If you don’t like the same thing you are not friends.
- Conversely, opposites can attract and a balanced friendship can bloom.
- You can be friends one minute and enemies the next and friends again just like that. True friends let this happen and don’t judge why.
- Best friends eliminate drama, because they really want to keep playing together.
- Forever friends are the friends you don’t see for a while and when you do see each other again, you scream, hug and pick up where you left off without skipping a beat. I’ve seen this in young children who are separated for a week due to illness or family vacation. The reunions are joyous.
- Friends ask you to play even if you don’t ask them. Sometimes they just silently join you.
- Friends like your stuff, even if you don’t.
- They support you in doing something silly, adventurous or off beat but advise you not to do something dangerous.
- Friends never covet your stuff, they share yours and theirs.
- Good friends are happy for your happiness, even if they don’t understand why you are happy! They are happy because you are happy.
- Friends allow other people to be a part of your friendship.
- They give you non-monetary gifts whenever you are together.
Happy Valentine’s Day! Go spend time with a friend.
Choosing the Best Early Childhood Program
How do you choose an early childhood program?
Location and cost are important to the family looking for child care outside of the home, so how do you find the best fit for your budget, yourself and your child?
In my experience, word of mouth is the first stop for most families. Start by asking your friends, acquaintances and colleagues about where their child is in early care. Keep in mind looking for the best fit for you cannot be judged by your friends alone. I would advise looking at more than one place and perhaps making more than one visit. The decision of where to place your child outside of your home should be made keeping in mind that research shows the importance of quality care in early developmental years. Convenience and price might not be in the future generation’s best interest.
Next make sure that the child care on your list is licensed. In MA you will find a listing of all licensed child care providers both home based and center based at www.eec.state.ma.us. You will be assured of health and safety standards as defined by the Commonwealth.
A higher level of quality for a center based childcare is national accreditation by the National Association of the Education of Young Children (NAEYC) www.naeyc.org for home based care go to www.nafcc.org
Since you will have needs specific to your family, gather more information by looking for a website or making a phone call to verify that the childcare centers on your list offer the days and hours of operation you require. You might ask about other policies that are important specifically to you for example, celebrations, family involvement, wellness policy, cancellation, or closures.
Next you will need to arrange to visit the child care setting. It is advisable to call ahead to find out if you can “drop in”. There are a range of safety pre-cautions that vary from site to site, home to home from very lenient to very strict policies of no admittance without an appointment.
Once at the site, assess the atmosphere. Ask yourself how you feel. Does the environment welcome you and your child? Are the children happy? Is the noise level appropriate for a group of children at play? What are the children doing, how about the adults? Are the children being supervised? You should see smiles all around, hear pleasant sounds, notice hands on play and activity. There should be enough materials for everyone.
Pay attention to interactions between children and between teachers and children. They should be mostly positive without overuse of the word “no”. Guidelines and rules should be clearly understood and explained for everyone.
Equally important to the indoor space is the outdoor space. Asses this space as you would the indoor space.
Lastly, would your child be comfortable, happy, and engaged in the environment you are visiting. If all of the above is met, you’ve met your match.
Improving behavior
A sigh of relief: Routines
Let the wild rumpus end! I can hear a collective sigh of relief from parents of pre-schoolers. It is time to go back to school, back to “normalcy”, and maybe even time to grab a moments peace when the little ones go to pre-school.
We’ve all had fun and stayed up too late but now it is time to get back on track. Time to get back into the school year rhythm after routines have been broken, limits stretched and boundaries redefined. You are ready for a break!
Children need routines, boundaries and limits to feel safe at home and at pre-school. Children have almost no control over their lives and routine offers stability and comfort. Routines ensure for children that their basic needs will be met. The added benefit is that pre-schoolers are learning good behavior and good habits.
At pre-school we have established routines that basically do not change. Our flexibility lies in that the pre-schooler cannot tell time so the order of things is what becomes important. You can create that same type of order at home.. First we do this and then we do something else.
Here are a few suggestions for either creating routines at home or transitioning back to routine if you have lost it during the summer/holiday break.
Waking up should be around the same time everyday.
The routine of washing up and brushing your teeth establishes good hygiene.
Pre-schoolers love to get themselves dressed, make sure that you have seasonally appropriate clothing in their drawers and let them choose their outfits. Anything goes as long as it is seasonally appropriate.
Remember to have regularly scheduled meal and snack times, children need reassurance they will eat.
Have bedtime ritual and routines, if this has been upended during the summer/holiday break, try to ease back into your regular, earlier time a few days in advance of going back to school. This way everyone is refreshed and ready to go.
Have a special place for items that are going back to school so that they are easily located during the hectic morning pace.
Once you establish and/or stick to a routine, you should notice an improvement in behavior.
Enjoy the last few days of summer break.
See you back at pre-school.